Stop Your Shyness Blog

About

My name is Sean Cooper, and until very recently I was your typical shy loser. It wasn’t that I was “weird” or wanted to be lonely. With the right person, I could keep a conversation going. Maybe even crack a few jokes.

But with people I didn’t feel comfortable talking around I would instantly become quiet and go into my shell. I swear I’ve stood in a circle with some people I wanted to get to know better and not said a word, until people would barely notice that I was even there, like I was invisible or something.

Humiliating Fact: I Didn’t Talk Much

Doesn’t it drive you nuts? It wasn’t that I was afraid of talking, just that I didn’t know what to say. I wouldn’t say a word and I would just listen. But if someone said something funny, inside my head I would say: “Why didn’t I come up with that?” My mind seemed to go blank and the harder I tried to think up of something to say, the longer I didn’t actually say anything…

And it wasn’t for lack of trying, either – but all the advice I ever got from people who were supposed to be “friends” was: “You’ll break out of your shell someday” and “Don’t be shy. Just pretend to be confident”…

Yeah, right.

To make matters worse, I didn’t really have a social life. Usually, I stayed at home by myself, keeping busy with solitary activities and pointless hobbies. Sometimes I thought I was passionate, but in the end, I was just lonely and bored. I spent a lot of time wondering what other “normal” people my age DID in their spare time.

One night a few years ago, I got sick and tired of being shy and lonely and bored out of my mind. I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I couldn’t stand the idea that I was going to spend the rest of my life being this socially phobic and die alone never having actually lived.

Fortunately, I’m The Kind Of Guy Who’s Interested In Psychology

The one thing I had going for me was my brain. I was always interested in human psychology and “behavior research” — you know, the advanced research techniques that make U.S. advertising companies so filthy rich.

My question was: if modern scientific research can reveal what America wants to buy…why can’t these same techniques reveal…

What Makes Certain People Popular?

I doubted I’d find anything important, but I was desperate, so I threw myself into the research anyway…

I went on a personal mission, and spent 3 long months(sacrificing whatever social life I had left) doing nothing but reading dozens of psychology books, listening to dusty old audio courses and studying seminars…

I even read ALL the popular books on overcoming shyness, most of which were absolute garbage…written by people who studied shyness in lab coats (but didn’t know what to do to actually OVERCOME IT!) By the end, I had spentdozens of weeks locked up in my room, trying to find the solution to end my shyness problem forever.

I Spent Months Trying To Find The Answer

But you know what? It was worth every second! What I discovered nearly blew my mind — and turned my social life around completely!

I’ll be writing a book about what I’ve learned VERY soon. Until then, I update this website every day.

-Sean Cooper