Has anybody ever asked you: ”Why are your hands so cold all the time?”
If you’re shy and your hands are cold a lot, then this web page will probably be very important to you.
What’s This All About?
A few months ago, I was painfully shy. At the same time, my hands were always cold, damp and clammy, sometimes even on hot summer days!
Fortunately, in my search to overcome my shyness, I “accidentally” stumbled on a simple trick that gets rid of cold hands for good. (And you don’t even have to overcome your shyness to do it.)
Why Would I Want To Get Rid Of Cold Hands?
This is probably self-explanatory, but I’ll list some of the benefits:
- You’ll be more confident touching other people.
- Less nervousness. (Having cold hands is indirectly caused by being habitually nervous, and usually this turns into a vicious cycle.)
- No more embarrassment about your cold hands.
- Also, the trick I’m going to show you makes you sound more confident when talking, as an added benefit.
Shallow Breathing – The Secret Cause of Cold Hands
The reason why so many shy people constantly have cold hands is hidden in how they breathe.
Let me explain. Social people are usually relaxed, while shy people are almost always nervous and on edge, even in relaxed situations. At an early age, they develop the habit of being nervous. This nervousness affects how they breathe.
In every mammal, there’s an automatic response when they’re nervous. They start breathing faster, and shallower. This is called Shallow Breathing by scientists.
It started when we had to watch out for predators in our caves and jungles, in order to survive. This can be useful in emergency situations to heighten alertness, but usually you do not want to be breathing in a shallow way.
Why? Because shallow breathing doesn’t let in enough oxygen to recharge blood cells completely. This means your body’s ability to circulate blood is severely cut down.
That’s why your forearms may be warm, but your hands, especially your fingertips, are always cold. Your blood doesn’t have enough oxygen in it to go that far. It doesn’t have enough oxygen because you are breathing in a shallow way. You are breathing shallowly because you are constantly nervous. And you are constantly nervous because you are shy.
So it can all be traced back to shyness … but how can you make your hands warmer without becoming socially successful overnight?
Diaphramatic Breathing – The Cure
Diaphramatic Breathing is the opposite of Shallow Breathing. When babies are born, this is how they breathe. Shy people, for some reason, forget how to breath like this as they are growing up.
I’m going to write a future article on Diaphramatic Breathing because it’s so important in many different ways, but here’s the best page on the internet I’ve found: http://www.anxietypanic.com/breathing.html
- When you breathe, you shouldn’t feel your chest and shoulders rising and falling. This is bad -it’s shallow breathing!
- You chest and shoulders should barely move. The area around your belly button should be moving up and down as you’re breathing.
- Breathe through your nose. This may feel uncomfortable at first, like you can’t get enough air, or like one of your nostrils is clogged, but you’ll get used to it. Breathe out through your nose as well.
- Take long, slow, deep breaths.
When Should I Use Diaphramatic Breathing?
This is the type of breathing you should ALWAYS use in everyday situations when you are talking to people.
In sports or dancing or other activities, people may tell you to breathe differently. That’s okay, just remember, there are different types of breathing for different situations.
What Else Causes Cold Hands?
I made the mistake of trying Diaphramatic Breathing for a few days, or only doing it when I noticed my hands were cold, and guess what?
My hands were still cold. A lot of the time.
The truth is, diaphramatic breathing does take a couple weeks to get used to. And several more weeks to turn it into a habit. That’s when you really start to notice the results, when you start doing it without thinking, ALL THE TIME.
If it doesn’t work, there may be other causes.
For example, you may actually be cold! If you’re actually shivering, put on some more layers, for god’s sake!
There are also some people who have medical issues that could cause them to have cold hands, but this is rare.
Before you rush to your doctor, first correct your shallow breathing, then look for other solutions if that doesn’t help. Chances are, you’re perfectly normal. Shallow breathing is very common.
Some Extra Tips
There are somethings you can do right away, as “quick fixes” while you’re working on your breathing habits.
If you’re going to a fancy party, meeting or interview, carry a handkerchief in your pocket. You can dry your hands on it before you shake someone’s hand. You hand will probably still be cold, but it won’t be damp and sweaty. Cold Sweat. Yuck.
The second thing you could do, in order to warm up your hands, is keep them in a warm place, like in your pockets. You could also rub them together to generate heat.
The last thing you could do is imagine you’re in a hot place. I’m not kidding. This is a technique called Visualization, and it’s been proven to increase someone’s body heat by a few degrees. You have to close your eyes and just feel the heat beating down on you. This actually does work, but it’s usually too much trouble and not really worth it. Better to make your hands warm themselves automatically by changing your breathing habits.
This is a quick summary of what I covered above:
- Cold hands are caused by a lack of oxygen, caused by shallow breathing, caused by nervousness, caused by shyness.
- The solution is Diaphramatic Breathing: You should feel your belly rising and falling when you breathe, not your chest and shoulders. Breathe through your nose, not your mouth. Take long, slow, deep breaths.
- You have to get to the point where Diaphramatic Breathing is a habit if you want to start seeing some good results.
- Cold Hands “Quick Fixes”:
- Carry an handkerchief.
- Keep your hands in a warm place, or rub them together.
- Visualize yourself in a warm place.
Good luck. If you start doing Diaphramatic Breathing, it could very well get rid of your cold hands problem, increase your confidence and change your life.
What have you got to lose by trying?